📕 subnode [[@forshaper/2023 04 11]] in 📚 node [[2023-04-11]]
📓 garden/forshaper/notes/journals/2023_04_11.md by @forshaper
  • Your [[product]] or [[service]] needs to [[fit]] with their [[workflow]], and with what they would need if they were [[experimenting]].
  • Labeling [[emotions]] may help [[people]] come out with them. collapsed:: true
    • It seems like you're [[feeling]] 'X'? How 'X' are you? What led to that feeling? What needs to happen for that feeling to be better? What can I do to help you make this happen?
  • Deep [[curiosity]] about an interlocutor will make any [[conversation]] [[interesting]]. collapsed:: true
    • Making things about [[others]] yields [[unknown]] [[opportunities]] because they are more likely to share what they [[know]] that you don't.
    • Ask [[questions]] that trigger [[answers]] that use thinking, feeling, or doing statements.
    • If someone tends to [[block]] others, give them something specific to do. Make them feel important. collapsed:: true
      • Ask them for a [[solution]].
      • When people need to [[vent]], let them vent and then [[ask]] them to say more.
    • When people think something new is [[impossible]], [[ask]] them what's impossible to do that would really help them out, then ask them about what would make that [[possible]].
    • How can you [[ask]] something that will help someone say "No"? collapsed:: true
      • What can you [[ask]] that will get both parties of a [[conflict]] to [[mirror]] each other?
        • Where do they need to be to be able to solve the [[problem]]?
          • Picture someone doing something [[frustrating]].
          • [[Ask]] the [[tulpa]] about what frustrates them most about you.
          • [[Ask]] about how much they are frustrated with you.
          • [[Ask]] the tulpa-copy about a time you did something extremely [[painful]] to them.
  • If someone isn't pulling their weight, point out the ways you think you probably [[frustrate]] them.
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