[[@forshaper/2023 05 15]]

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📓 garden/forshaper/notes/journals/2023_05_15.md by @forshaper

To encourage [[change]], look for what suggests that they don't like how things are. collapsed:: true
- Look for anything good they have to say about what [[change]] might do.
- Look for anything that suggests that they could [[change]] if they wanted to.
- Look for anything that sounds like a [[commitment]] to [[change]].
- What makes it difficult for them to consider [[change]]? collapsed:: true
  - What would it take to go where they want to go? collapsed:: true
    - What worries them about how things are?
    - What makes them think they need to do something about it?
    - What happens from what they are doing now?
    - Is there anything about what they are doing now that is a reason other people might [[worry]] about them?
    - How has this stopped them from being where they want to be?
    - What will happen if they don't [[change]] what they're doing?
- How would [[change]] help them? collapsed:: true
  - What would they like to be different?
  - What would be good about the [[change]]?
  - Where would they like to be in the future?
  - If the [[change]] happened now, what would [[fit]] them better?
  - What's a reason to [[change]]?
  - What would they get from a [[change]]?
- How would they see [[change]] as [[possible]]? collapsed:: true
  - What would make it so they could [[change]]?
  - What gives them [[energy]] to [[change]]?
  - When else did they make a [[change]] like this? How did they do it?
  - What do they have that no one else has that would help them [[change]]?
  - Who could help them [[change]]?
- When would they tell you that they want to [[change]]? collapsed:: true
  - What are they thinking about the thing that might [[change]]?
  - Are they feeling stuck?
  - What might they do?
  - How much do they [[want]] a [[change]]?
  - What would they try?
  - Of the things they might try, what would [[fit]] them best?
  - What do they [[want]] to happen?
  - What do they [[want]] to do?
- Look for what they think might happen if they [[change]] vs. what they think might happen if they don't change. collapsed:: true
  - What do they like about how things are now?
  - What do they dislike about how things are now?
  - How can these be illustrated visually?
- What is a day in their [[life]] like?
- What do you [[worry]] most about the thing that might [[change]]? collapsed:: true
  - What's the worst that might happen?
  - How might that happen? What else might happen as a result of that?
- What's the best thing that might happen?
- How would things [[change]], if you changed?
- Ask them about a different [[time]] in their [[life]]. Both what was, and what might be. collapsed:: true
  - What happens if things don't [[change]]?
- How is what they're doing consistent with what they want? How does it work against what they [[want]]?

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public document at doc.anagora.org/2023-05-15
video call at meet.jit.si/2023-05-15

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